Telling the Truth: Struggling vs. Presenting Your Perspective

Telling the Truth: Struggling vs. Presenting Your Perspective

Sam Harris’s Google+ Blog, “The Straight Path, A Conversation with Ronald A. Howard (http://www.samharris.org/blog/item/the-path-of-honesty) gave rise to some thoughts of my own about the truth.  Below I’ve written a few of my own observations suggested to me by the article.  

• ·      The importance of telling the truth is a factor of either, how old you are, or, alternatively, how long you are going to have a relationship with the person to whom you are speaking.
• ·      If you, as the speaker of truth/or not, have a perception that you will live an indefinite amount of time, or will have an indefinitely long relationship with the person you are potentially lying to, you have a lower likelihood of telling the truth.  I think this is true even of people who usually intend to tell the truth. The key word is relationship.  There is some unknowable correlation between one being more likely to tell the truth to someone with whom you have a relationship and the potential for lying to someone in a one-off transaction.
• ·      There is such a thing as too much truth.  Like your favorite weather conditions, a sunny sky, a cool breeze, a refreshing shower, or a lovely snowfall, too much of any one or more of these conditions will produce undesired results.  Too much truth can work the same way.
• ·      Self-deception is just as potentially destructive to anyone involved, as telling lies.  Whether the people you are dealing with detect the truth about you or not, whatever you say regarding that self-deception, and particularly, any actions you take based on it are more likely to have adverse results. 

It is not enough to intend to speak the truth, most of the time.  Everyone is better off if we tell the truth, even if it can put us in awkward situations.  We might even find that we have fewer awkward situations if we tell the truth more often.  Even well intentioned lies can have adverse consequences.  Often these consequences follow later, when they are most inconvenient.

George Clooney's Advice for Job Interviews or Auditions

     In January 2012, George Clooney appeared on Bravo's "Inside the Actor's Studio" Season 18. For two hours he talked about acting, directing, and producing movies.  I like George in all of these roles.  He is from my area of the country.  I grew up watching his Dad deliver the local news in Cincinnati.  But as an Operations Manager in transition (i.e. looking for a new job) I was particularly struck when George talked about how auditions used to make him nervous until he figured something out.
     Imagine this suave, Cary Grant-like actor being nervous about auditioning for acting roles.  Didn't he just get every role he auditioned for?  Apparently not.  George actually worried about what would happen if the casting director didn't like the way he interpreted a part or what he would do if he didn't get the role he really wanted.
      George said sometimes actors get in their own way.  He told himself, the worst thing that could happen at audition (or interview) is that he would walk out of there without the role (or job) that he didn't have when he walked in.  From there he gave other audition advice.
     This struck me as great interview advice.  If you didn't get the job, you would still be able to interview for other roles.  You would still have your skills.  What would happen if you got the job? You would still be the same guy.  The company would still be the same, except you would have one of the jobs.  There was very little difference between getting the job and not getting the job.  Oh sure, there is the money, but you are the same. The only difference is that somebody decided to take a chance on you, that you would be able to perform that job well.
     There is no point in being nervous about the outcome of auditions or interviews.  You are who you are.  What you need to do is present yourself in the best light that you can predict your interviewer will want to see you, and hope for the best outcome.